Raise your hand if you’re sick and tired of the pressure of Valentines Day? I know I am!
Well as the days are drawing in, it’s getting closer to Valentines Day where some of you may dread this upcoming day and some of you may love it!
This Valentines Day I wanted to share the love around and show the importance of Self Love as Self Love isn’t always about treating yourself to the latest designer handbag or buying new clothes, it’s how you feel inside that counts the most. There’s a tremendous amount of pressure from society making you feel like you need to be in a relationship or even pressure from family members asking you if you’ve got a boyfriend or girlfriend yet, a lot of us have all been through it, I know I have! It’s silly when you think about it because you might not be purposely looking for someone, you might just want to “do you” for a bit and I’m here to remind you that, that’s OK, in fact… GO YOU!
I think the pressure begins when you’re in secondary school as there can be this overwhelming pressure on you around thinking you need a boyfriend or girlfriend to help you fit into society when it shouldn’t be like that at all. So if you’re reading this, please don’t think you need the ‘relationship title’ to feel better or to ‘fit in’ as I know there are many of you out there that may feel like this because your friends are in relationships or because you’re feeling the pressure from others around you. Valentines Day for me is a day where you celebrate the people you love in your lives and that doesn’t necessarily need to be a partner, it could be your parents, your best friend, your neighbour. Spread the love this Valentines and show the people around you that you care!
Also, I cannot stress enough about how incredibly important it is to realise your self-worth. Whether that be letting go of a toxic friend or getting out of a toxic relationship, we’ve all had moments where you feel like you’re “not good enough” or you compare yourselves to others around you which can deteriorate the positive thoughts about yourself and lead you to dwell on insecurities you may have. I’ve done it, we’ve all done it at some point in our lives and sometimes you just need to sit back and look at your life from another perspective and think “Hold on, do I deserve being treated like this?” and the answer to that my lovelies is, no, no you don’t!
Finally, I’m going to conclude this blog with something that’s very close to my heart which is body image. Truthfully, I’ve always had a love and hate relationship with my body growing up as there have been countless occasions where I was teased or bullied for being a curvier girl but I’ve learnt to love my body and be grateful for my thick thighs and booty because I’m never gonna fit into the narrow mould that society wants me to fit into. We all have insecurities that we wish we could change or get rid of but it’s what makes us who we are. Stretch marks? You’re fabulous. Skinny body? You slay every day. Thick body? You slay every day too. Cellulite? You rule. As I’ve grown as a person I’ve realised if we start to compliment what we don’t really like about our bodies, we can start to train our minds into realising how beautiful our bodies really are.
There’s SO much more I want to discuss on Self Love (I’m not kidding, I could talk for DAYS on this topic) which is why I’m in the process of setting up my YouTube channel to get more of my thoughts and experiences across to you all in hope it helps some of you!
Like my girl Zendaya once said…
“Now everyone, go look in the mirror at your beautiful body, and love that sh*t!”
As always, all the love.
Signing out, Becca’s Bubble xo